By mid-February she was ready to give up on the money when it finally arrived. Edwin never told her it was in the bank by the time she learned that he had already spent a good amount on futility and one of them was a truck that wasn’t worth $7K. That Friday she discovered he had received the money when confronted he lied again to her.
That night she went through the bank account and was able to trace it back. He wasn’t about to give her anything. She stayed in the living room sleeping on the chair. By morning they went to the bank, this was one of the most humiliating situations yet, that was about to happen.
As they went to the bank Jeanne assumed Edwin would have a check or money to pay her back. What she did not realize was that he wasn’t about to do that. They entered the bank and waited in line, when their turn came, she stepped aside so he could do the transaction he was planning to do. While she was waiting and listening to Edwin ordering a cashier check for the $7K. Edwin did not ask for another check.
Jeanne’s blood left her face and she felt the humiliation coming upon her. She felt betrayed as they left the bank, the cashier was looking at Jeanne a little worried. They both left and went to her car, as she was sitting in the car the feeling of rage started to take over. She faked a smile which Edwin did not even realize. He was so much in control of the situation he thought he had trapped her.
As she tried to keep her composure, thinking how was I going to get the money? Edwin placed his hand behind her head and told her “He will take care of her” this was the breaking point for Jeanne. As they were turning into a smaller road something broke inside of her. She started to push the accelerator pedal down. It was an icy road at that moment she was looking for a tree where she could unbuckle his seatbelt and crash her car to kill him. As the car started to speed faster and the rage inside of her started to blind her, she heard a little voice asking her what would happen to the pups? Who would take care of them?
As she spotted the perfect tree, she snapped out of it and kept the car on the road. She arrived at the place the truck was. He got out of the car and went to speak with the seller, she quickly left the place driving back to his place.
She had a couple of options she was debating loudly in the car. One pack up the stuff and go or thinking of her business if she could get the hold of his credit card and process it, she would be good. Edwin realized she might be a flight risk and quickly did the buy and drove as quickly as he could to his house. with the new truck.
She was there sitting in the dining area, waiting patiently for him. He arrived all worried and she just started to play the game of “how I am going to pluck you like a chicken”. He had no idea how she was about to outsmart him. He felt better when he saw Jeanne smiling but Edwin made a mistake when he left the room, he left his wallet on the table.
Jeanne grabbed it and took a picture of the credit card that would be useful for later. As a good narcissist Edwin was living it large thinking, he had a billion dollars in his banking account. Money has always and will always burn his hands.
He is incapable of keeping it or even managing his bills. He was late on his property taxes and his utilities.
He thought he was living the life of a thug and cash was the only way to go. So back to that Saturday afternoon while he was busy getting high, Jeanne took her laptop and went to the credit card terminal she had. She tried to run the first test at $5K but got rejected which freaked her out. So instead of letting it go she tried for a smaller amount of $2.5K which worked. She proceeded to do a few more transactions which during the weekend does not process yet until Monday. She proceeded to do the same thing on Sunday that would equal the amount he owed her.
She felt a huge sense of relief it was now time to exit the nightmare. However, it did not go as smooth as she thought. Edwin was still talking with the ex from Tennessee and since she did not get what she came for, she was on the mission since January to try to create a wedge at any opportunity she had between them. Edwin, who needed to speak trash about Jeanne to his ex was the perfect combo. However, the ex-did not realize that Edwin was not going to kick Jeanne to the curb. Edwin was not about to do that.
However, after Edwin realized by Tuesday Jeanne took the money he went into a rage and became verbally abusive even making attacks via Facebook towards Jeanne without naming her. The ex was more than happy to laugh and comment about it on his posts. After the last altercation via the phone Jeanne blocked him. She also found out he was tormenting and gaslighting Titi the Tuna with past pictures and stories that triggered her.
Titi the Tuna was another full-blown narcissist alcoholic with a delusional grandeur. She was addicted to tormenting Edwin, to which it’s called double mothership. It means feeding each other like two vampires sucking their life out of each other. They were the worst toxics relationship you could ever imagine but since they were both highly addicted people, they could only fuel each other’s darkness.
He did not realize right away she had done that, a few weeks passed, and her life was starting to get back on track. She decided to unblock him thinking he would not contact her. A day passed when he started to contact her freaking out, she wasn’t talking to him.
She was about to sign a deal in June that would have helped her business but somehow it did not happen. She was faced with a daunting couple of months in July and August that would be tight for her. She made the conscious decision to go back to him temporarily so she could have a reprieve, or she thought.
She thought at that time it was the best option so she stayed there, and Edwin thought she would not leave. He was talking about opening a business with her even though she told him she would never do that with him at all. She saw his behavior and had neither trust nor faith about running a successful business with him. Again, trying to manipulate her to sell her house, she wasn’t about to do that at all. She was optimistic and kept going. Some days Edwin would not purchase any groceries to starve her thinking she still had the money she took from him. That money actually paid some bills she had.
Trev and Edwin had a falling out at the end of the year, so Edwin had to find another supplier for his meth. He, by the intermediary of another junky who had another supplier, Sean. Edwin loved to use the conversations he had with Jeanne and use them with others so he could sound smarter. Jeanne had cut on about a year ago and wasn’t about to give him any insight into anything, knowing he would use it to his advantage. Sean was not doing well health wise, so Carey, Trey’s sister who was a small drug dealer came in to play.
She worked at a farm; Edwin used to go get his supplies from her. The farm went bankrupt and the flowers they were growing where going to waste. Edwin got another brilliant idea why not plant and sell them from his home?
Jeanne knew it was a bad idea, Edwin wasn’t going to listen to her. He invited Carey to his house to allege plant the bulbs. Well, Jeanne was monitoring via the cameras what was going on and realized quickly that Carey was doing nothing then getting high and truly believed something again was happening with Edwin.
She came unannounced to his place and quickly realized he was getting higher than usual, and she was stoned as well. She kicked her out and yelled at him, nothing was being sold and the backyard was the same. So that weekend she spent 4 hours planting the bulbs with him. He was whining the whole time because he was incapable of working that hard unless he was getting high between each row. Jeanne was selling the plants for the first amount of money that came. Edwin took the money for himself, this did not sit well with Jeanne, so every sale she made she took a good percentage off and kept the rest for groceries.
August came and she finally got another contract that was a Hail Mary that started to put her back on track. She hadn’t been in love with Edwin since September 2021, however she had to be patient to get her money back. Now we were in September 2022 and the only thing she had in mind was leaving. She was now preparing her exit.
It was challenging since dealing with a junky and narcissistic person she had to be careful about herself and her dogs. She remembered his threats, even though she wasn’t scared of him she knew he was unstable.
So, the exit plan begins……..Jeanne knew she would be gone before year’s end. She just had to make sure to remove items slowly one at a time so he would not get suspicious. She started to go back to her house days at the time. He did not like it because he could not control her at all.
Her contract ended earlier than expected, it was time to make the decision should I stay or should I go. To make matters worse the furnace in his house wasn’t working. In is crazy mind he thoughts a small heater would be sufficient. At the beginning the heater was in the bedroom.
Thanks to the fact that he moved it to the bathroom, one thing Edwin loves to take is A bath, a long bath! He would even sleep in it high and drunk. So, when the temperature was plummeting Jeanne was sleeping in her clothes.
Edwin had an overnight job he landed in May; it was good money but again he was incapable of managing it, spending his money unwisely. He did sell some of his minibikes, however he was getting more junk in his garage that times would end up in the house itself.
It was becoming increasingly cold and unsafe in the house. Jeanne had moved everything out of the house, it was just now time to get out. That Friday Jeanne was on a conference call, Edwin decided to let the dogs outside in the weather that was less than 15 without Jeanne knowing. He went to the bathroom and got high for a good half an hour until Jeanne was able to get out of the call. The smell of the meth was filling the office, Jeanne’s body was reacting to it in the wrong way. She was getting sick she could not stand it anymore and had to open a window to get some fresh air.
She was upset to see her dogs freezing to death waiting for someone to open the door, he was too high and cocky that was the last straw for her. She decided at that point it was time to go, now it was a matter of letting him know. By Saturday night, early Sunday morning, the bedroom was colder. Edwin, who was high, decided to take a bath. He spent two hours getting high and drunk the bedroom temp went down to 10 degrees. Jeanne was trying to keep herself and the pups warm.
Edwin finally got out of the bathroom, when he opened the door, you could feel the heat and condensation from the bedroom. Jeanne had enough, by Sunday late afternoon she finally packed up her stuff and went to say goodbye to Edwin in the bedroom.
She told him that was it, she could not do this anymore. She had enough and his house was a dump. He had no heat, the flooring is nonexistent, this is an unsafe house, and no one would like to live like that. Everything he had in his house was picked up from a curbside in bad shape and had no dryer when washing the clothes. He had no heater in the bedroom, and she could not expose her dogs to these unsafe conditions. The backyard had broken glass all over, buried garbage, unburned garbage, junk all over the place. It was unsafe for any animals or humans.
He started to cry and for a moment, because he wasn’t high, he apologized for the way he treated her, he wasn’t crying for Jeanne, he was crying for himself because he was being abandoned and he did not want to be by himself. In desperation he tried to tell her he would change. In a kind way Jeanne stated it was all a lie he would never change. She wasn’t going to be dealing with a junky when she has never done drugs in her lives. She did not want to live in a dump and unsafe house for her and the dogs without any heat. But it wasn’t enough, she told him to find someone else. She left quietly like she had come and took the pups. As she drove back to her place a sense of peace and freedom came upon her. She was smiling, feeling relieved the universe had her back. She had no food or a contract yet, but she knew it was the right decision for them.
A few days later she got a new contract and started to move on. Edwin was not about to let her go so he started first by being sweet and all loving then when this did not work, he started phase two by attacking her via text messages and made some vial comments on Facebook again. She put him back in his place when she discovered he had a VIP membership on Tinder, so he was spending money to talk to girls while the bills were still piling up.
One of the comments that said it all to her was the following, “it started with an emoji but one specific which is the middle finger” followed by “detached a while ago I’m a man nothing was making me wonder about you maybe because you weren’t there. At least I had fun at the first legs (women). Her response was “There is nothing else to say at this point Edwin. Enjoy your life wishing you well”. She waited to see what he would say, he sends her “Hurt” by Johnny Cash on Pandora. She as she has always done quietly blocked him from all contacts and moved on, he started to go back to his ex-girlfriend’s contacts like narcissist personas do but this time he added a twist.
Sean, his supplier, now had his girlfriend Erinica running the show, so he has been cozying up to her. Since he needed a new supply aka mark, another Jeanne to go after he has now is eyes on Erinica’s friend a single mom Krissa and he is gaslighted the conversation to get her to respond to him first. She was upset about a false narrative he started while putting her on a pedestal so she could feel special “how beautiful she is super pretty” “I kept saying to myself man this girl is really sweet, and she is trying really hard. Your pictures of you and your baby’s are totally adorable”.
To make himself showing up as someone who cares here’s the following “making sure the little guy is kept in good protectives hands when you go back to work. “That’s what keeps rolling out of my mind” As you can read this is how manipulative narcissists are.
Now this is the move to get to her: “was curious has it been a transformation mothering can be only something a person desires after someone misses out on their chance. Your pictures are incredible what an amazing gift” Again trying to put her on a pedestal.
Now since she is still upset about the first comment, he made this move to see what her response would be: “I’ve been putting a lot of thought in to how much I should be considering how I might want to bring myself into being a possible candidate in dating this really sweet, beautiful younger lady I might want to court. What’s your opinion”?
This is a predator’s move; most people will not read this way because they think they care. A narcissistic person does not care, they only want their supply aka mark to put on the pedestal, control and destroy this goes in cycles repeatedly. They will make sure they not only destroy that person mentally but financially and job wise as well so that person is left at the mercy of him/her. Keeping them prisoner by brainwashing them with their sick games.
Jeanne understood that even though he had created a pattern of addiction she was not going to stay. She fell out of love and had no trust in him, she just wanted her life back.
The other issue is that narcissists also use social media to create a false narrative. For example, Edwin always stated his house is paid, he takes pictures of expansive steaks and flaunts this all-over social media. He makes comments and personal comments on past relationships making him the victim never the perpetrator. They want people to drink their cool aid which most of them do. They lie at every turn and will take advantage of anyone and everyone as long as that makes the narcissist look good. While this is addictive to them, they still need a “supply” a mark like Jeanne. They are always on the lookout for a man or a woman who is middle aged and single, or A single mom or dad. They do not accept rejection so when Jeanne left, he wasn’t about to let it happen and tried to bring her back to him.
Edwin’s reality is the house is paid yes however the state of the house it should be condemned totally unsafe. The backyard is as hazardous as the house. He had not paid any of his bills for a long time since Jeanne was the one to make sure it was paid. Unless you have been exposed to a hard drug addiction, they will hide it from you at first and lie about what kind it is when questioned. He did hide it for a long time from Jeanne until he got too comfortable, unlike Krissa, who knows all about it, that might be easier for Edwin, no need to hide it.
There is a lot of help you can find via YouTube on how to deal with a narcissist. One thing Jeanne did in that relationship was not wanting to change him. She learned to never do that most people tend to stay in the relationship in the hope they can change their partner which is a very very bad idea.
You can’t change a narcissist just walk away, even if you feel broken inside. I can say you will survive and be yourself again. Narcissists are like vampires, they will target people who have a bright and strong spirit, in the quest to destroy them by any means. There are no rules in their games, they will use everything you say against you.