This Is A Cautionary Tale Of A Junkie Narcissist part1

It all started a couple of years ago when Edwin entered Jeanne’s life. It was not something Jeanne had ever planned, what would happen next would take 2 years in the making to finally walk away from all of it.

She was about to discover a world she had never been exposed to and it would be a life changer. She thought she had been facing extreme challenges but what was about to happen was a reminder that the life she had gone through would prepare her for what was coming next.

Jeanne is a smart businesswoman in her late forties, she had a life full of adventures. She started her own business; she was focused on expanding her reach by becoming a master in her own field. Her world was comprised of friends all over the world and her pets.

She was driven by opportunities that were coming her way. Edwin entered her life in an unexpected way, she was not looking for anyone, her business was taking off and it was her focus. He was in a trade world at that time when he came to do the repairs on her house.

He noticed her and quickly, as a narcissist would do, assessed her and her surroundings. He had already estimated the cost of the house and was listening carefully when Jeanne was talking on the phone. He did what a good narcissist would do to test the water.

He found out quickly she was single, he saw she was a determined and strong person. He knew she was his next “supply” a mark if you will! She did not take his advances seriously; she was cautious but in one way was amused.

She wanted to do some extra remodeling in her house, so to show how much he would care he recommended a wholesaler and even offered to do the installation for free under one condition if she would help him and get a free meal. She agreed to it.

So, the dance started, Edwin had a plan, and this was to start to condition her in what we call “a cult of one”. First, he would not show up when he offered to help her. Then when he was there, he would let her do most of the work. She got irritated that her house was a war zone adding the fact she was doing most of the work.

After having a conversation with Edwin, they finally finished the remodeling. They started to become friends and Edwin made it clear to Jeanne he was coming for her. She still did not take it seriously; we were close to Christmas, and he wanted her to meet his family.

She felt it was too soon to do that, so she said no, Edwin shared he was done with a relationship he had but somehow his ex-Titi the Tuna was still stalking him. She did not want to have anything to do with that.

For New Year’s Edwin invited Jeanne to go to his hometown so he could show her where he lived. She was excited it would be great to discover that little town. Well, this was another red flag, that evening Edwin disappeared he had a meltdown and never came to pick up Jeanne. Instead, he went to his hometown with a bottle of gin and got drunk in his van.

Jeanne was extremely disappointed and had had enough of his actions. She was ready to walk away when he came back in January. He even started to bring items to her house. He was moving in without her realizing it right away.

February the 13th she went to his house. It was the second time she had visited that house. The first time she went there unannounced she opened the patio door. She found him sleeping on a chair in a crowded small room. The rest of the house was in shambles, literally it was a dump or should I say, “under permanent construction”.

This time around he cleaned up his house, she met his mother for the first time as well. Jeanne unloaded Edwin’s clothes from her car. She had no intention of having him move into her house. His mother left and they went to the bedroom to relax.

What Jeanne did not know at the time was that Edwin was still with Titi the Tuna. An hour after they went to the bedroom watching TV, Jeanne left earlier her coat, shoes, and purse in the office. As they were starting to fall asleep, they heard a voice calling him.

Jeanne had no idea who it was, Edwin woke up in terror and told Jeanne it was Titi. This is where all hell broke loose. Titi was able to convince a friend of Edwin’s roommate that was fixing his car in the garage to break into the house.

From there she spent the next two hours roaming the house, including the office where she opened the purse and took a picture of Jeanne’s ID. Jeanne needed to go to the bathroom very bad, but Edwin was so terrified to be discovered by Titi, he decided to play “dead”. Troy, the roommate’s friend, was ready to leave. It was the opportunity for Jeanne to leave the bedroom via the bedroom’s patio door.

She was able to enter the back patio door like she came from the garage followed by Titi. She quickly went to the bathroom. She went in the office and picked up her stuff while being interrogated by Titi the Tuna.

She left and could not believe what had just happened. From there Jeanne kept her distance from him. He would try to get into Jeanne’s head at times to get her into his narcissist pattern. In April Jeanne had enough and went to talk to Edwin.

She gave him an ultimatum, “you are in or out”. He decided to go all in, or so she thought. Late May he decided to propose to her on a job site he was working at, and she was visiting. She said “sure” and what she did not realize is that she became a trophy for the next year that he would be dangling in front of everyone.

Starting with his father, who was a successful business owner who retired in his 50’s. He was a shroud businessman. However, after testing Jeanne he realized she was a smart savvy businesswoman. They spent their summer weekends at his cabin and enjoyed motorcycle rides. Both Edouard and Jeanne had a wonderful bond. Edouard had high hopes for Edwin and thought he would finally settle with Jeanne.

That Summer Edwin childhood friend Trev was going through the process of handling an inheritance and a battle with his family trust. With the death of his grandma the trust was supposed to be split amongst the children.

Trev wanted to use the money to purchase a motel in South Dakota. Edwin wanted Jeanne to be involved, Jeanne was not too keen to do so knowing Trev’s past. However, she decided to meet Trev to figure out what he was looking for.

Edwin was in heaven thinking his master plan to take control over Trev’s millions worked so he could spend them. What Edwin did not realize was that Jeanne had figure out what he was up to. So, when they drove to South Dakota to see Trev for the second time. Trev showed Jeanne the motel, when they came back from the ride Jeanne drafted a solid contract that would protect her.

Since she did not trust Trev or Edwin. One could not do illegal business, or he would lose over a million dollars and the second could not take over the money because to be part of the joint venture he had to be unanimously voted in the partnership.

As the summer went on Jeanne noticed Edwin was on the phone a lot, he also became paranoid about his phone. This brings us back again to Titi the Tuna.

By June Jeanne was going freely to Edwin’s house. One day just a week before his son’s birthday they were in the living room where his bed was and as they were talking Titi arrived unannounced, this time the house was locked also, they thought. Titi was not able to open the front door. However, a window had been left half open. Titi was able to wiggle herself through the window quickly and quietly. As Edwin was speaking, he started to say, “what are you doing here Titi”.

He repeated that twice looking over at Jeanne. At first Jeanne thought he was joking. She turned around and saw Titi standing right there. For the next hour Titi tried to pick a fight with Edwin and made some horrifying comments. That he was a drug addict on crystal meth, cheating and other statement along the line how she would strike at him before he did anything to her. Edwin face was livid he was scared to death that the truth Titi was talking about would scare Jeanne.

As Jeanne was sitting on the bed, she was texting a friend of hers giving her a play by play. After an hour she had enough and stated to Edwin “your mother is waiting for us we got to go”.  They were able to get Titi out of the house and they went to the gas station.

As he went inside Jeanne was on her phone and as the minutes passed, she found it odd he wasn’t back right away. She looked at the exit door of the gas station and saw Edwin followed by Titi. They went back to the house still being followed by Titi.

Edwin entered the house and Titi followed him; he went back outside still being followed by Titi. A few minutes passed when Jeanne went to the van and told Edwin “This is your mother on the phone we need to go” from there they left via two cars. Titi did not follow them, she left in her orange jeep to go back to her home.

For a month Titi did not reach out to Edwin. However, come August, the month of the extremes. This is where the truth started to come out. Edwin’s behavior became erratic, violent outburst, being cold and mentally abusive. This did not happen overnight it was gradual, and I would say like a scalpel precise cut on the skin.

On the weekend over to his father’s cabin during a motorcycle ride Edwin was making some calls outside of the bar when they stopped. Jeanne knew at that time it was Titi, her instinct would never fail her. She had confirmation at night. While Edwin was asleep Jeanne went through his phone and found a series of explicit texts.

She became suspicious of Edwin’s activities and confronted him; Edwin was a good liar and tried a few stories to see what would happen. Jeanne was also looking at what Edwin was smoking, Edwin lied to her by stating it was Kief. Somehow Jeanne did not believe him, so she did her own research and discovered it was crystal meth.

At that point she was horrified. To make things worse, in Mid-August Edwin went into town to see Titi. That night he never came back home. They were supposed to leave by morning for his father’s cabin. Instead, Jeanne was worried his phone was off and Edouard called Jeanne asking her at what time they would arrive since he could not get ahold of his son. She felt mortified about the situation but again she had no proof of cheating with Titi.

As things were spiraling down, we were approaching September, his birthday. Jeanne wanted to host lunch at his mom’s house. She was excited and was hoping for the best. She was going to make chili and had some custom-made cookies. It was supposed to be a great Sunday.

However, she was still on edge sensing things were about to go down. That Friday night she was working late and had a sense something was about to go down. She had a strong feeling Edwin was with Titi again! At one point she texted him letting him know she was on her way to his house. And, to say hello and goodbye to Titi. His response was “you are a weirdo”.

She was furious she kept her hands on the steering wheel and arrive before him to his house. He arrived 30 minutes later. He hid his phone in the office and went to bed like nothing happened. Jeanne waited for him to fall asleep and went into the office and searched for it.

What she discovered made her angry Titi texted Edwin asking him why he left instead of cuddling with her. She went back to the bedroom, lying next to him for a while. At about 6 AM she woke him up and started the most grueling interrogation for four and half hours to get the truth out of him. He admitted he was on crystal meth did not even gave credit to Jeanne to have figure it out this one. Admitted having cheated on Jeanne twice. He also admitted she did transport illegal drugs across states unknowingly and unwillingly. She was livid all this was happening a day before his birthday.

At that point she gave him 90 days to clean up his act with the meth, cutting immediately all communication with Titi. It was a test she was doing to see if he could keep the end of the bargain. Edwin stopped working last June, he wanted to take some time off and enjoy life. What Jeanne discovered is that Edwin was trying to have her sell her house, moving full-time with him and asking her to get hitched in September. Jeanne refused to get married, stating she needed to take her time no rush.

In regards of her house, she had no intention of selling it knowing he would try to put his hands on the money. He was trying to isolate her as much as possible to control her, he made other promises but at that point she knew it would not work at all and he was using her as the piggy bank. She kept her promise to stay for the next 90 days to see through it.

Edwin was trying as much as he could to control her. He was parading her around and telling everyone she was rich! He was using his Facebook to create a fake narrative that the people reading it would and are believing him!

Things were not going to stop anytime soon, as a narcissistic person Edwin made a lot of promises and every single one of them would be broken. This is the pattern of a narcissistic person, a month passed, and everything seems OK. Jeanne never took her guard down she knew it would not last. However, Edwin loved to go online and as a good narcissistic person he would go back to the people he had been intimately involved with.

This time it was someone that is living in Tennessee. She is married and is another narcissist as well. Never worked her entire life, loving the life of luxury she had. Used social media to show it all off in need of attention as well. She loved to stray away from her marriage. Her sibling would have her flying here and cover her extra marital affairs.

In the past she and Edwin did hook up when she was in town. This time he had an entire motive because Edwin modo was “what can I get out of you” each time he would befriend someone. She had some memorabilia he was interested in since he wanted to start another thrifty store. His goal was to sway her to come with a couple of items. However, she had her own agenda as he shared with Jeanne the news, he might be getting some items from her. He told Jeanne he would handle it.

A few weeks passed when Jeanne went back to his place one day, she had the urge to search for his phone. To her horror she discovered some explicit messages with a few pictures as well. As Jeanne started to confront Edwin, he tried to push her back and told her it was a game. Jeanne knew it wasn’t and he had entered an emotional relationship with another ex. He wasn’t in control of that game the ex was.

She packed up her stuff and left his house,

This time around she was not going to let this go any further, she took matters into her own hands and flipped the situation around. They stopped communicating for a week, in the meantime the ex-got a new phone number and the saga continued.

We were a few days away from Thanksgiving and she wasn’t planning on going to his mother’s house after this issue. Edwin blackmailed her to show up, what he did not know that Saturday when she stormed out of his house, she did call his mother and cancelled the invitation to go to his mother letting her know what she had uncovered.

By the time she arrived an hour later everyone knew what he had done. Edwin tried to be loving but Jeanne ignored him and brushed him away in front of his family. He switched his seat with his sister so he could stay further away from Jeanne.

Jeanne was able to have some private time with his mom. She told her what was going on with the drugs and the cheating. His mom conceded that what he was doing was like his father’s behavior about cheating.

December arrived and it was the eve of his mother’s birthday. Jeanne wanted to do a luncheon at his house with the rest of his family. This luncheon was planned a few weeks prior to Thanksgiving and Jeanne did not want to cancel it. As she was ready to go to the store for the final items, Edwin went to bed, so she started a simple conversation about Ed the Painter who was texting him and calling him a lot. He stated this was a guy he knew and had a lot of issues.

Jeanne did not buy the lie; she knew it was something else. Earlier that night she noticed that for a few hours he was in the living room on his phone. She sneaked in while he was outside and noticed Albert the painter was the number that was called often.

As she was leaving to go to the store his phone made a noise. She had no idea who it was, but the message intrigued her. So, she played the game to respond, it only took a few messages when she realized to her horror it was the ex.

Jeanne stormed into the bedroom and confronted Edwin who again denied everything. She went in a state of shock, she could not believe he would have done that. She had brought the food for the luncheon and had no intention of leaving it behind. As she was quickly packing the food and placing it in the car. She was starting to hyperventilate and started to say “Oh my god, Oh my god! For a good 5 minutes. She took her clothes and left with the dogs.

Edwin was in a feat of anger and was verbally abusive but not fast enough to stop her from taking the dogs away this time around. She started the car still saying “oh my god”

She tried to call a friend but could not get hold of him, so she called her friend Grace to help her to drive back home. Grace was such a life saver during the trip back home Jeanne fainted almost 3 times on the highway.

She dropped her dogs at the doggy daycare while Edwin became overly abusive via text and phone. She stayed home and could not believe he would do that again. The entire family arrived for the luncheon and found only Edwin without the food. No one was happy because they figured it out very quickly, he had continued to talk to the ex. This was a big blow to Edwin’s narcissism ego.

As he continued to connect with his ex, Jeanne discovered she was coming into town the week of Christmas. It was a few hours before she landed, so to make sure she would not have what she came for, Jeanne engineered a strategy to meet her with Edwin. She let Edwin thought it was his idea.

They did meet at a coffee shop and spoke for a few hours; she wasn’t happy at first and realized she would not get what she came for. She left town without having the good time she was planning with Edwin and Edwin never had the memorabilia he wanted for his delusional store he allegedly wanted to open.

Looking at the amount of money Jeanne had spent on his house it was starting to be substantial.

She wanted her money back; she did apply for a loan he was entitled it was the reason she stayed longer to get her money back. We were now close to the new year and life was different, her goal was the money. She knew it would not be easy, but she wanted what was rightfully hers back and some more.

His drug intake was lower, but he never quit, she knew he loved his meth more than anything else, he already told her in past conversation. He also told her that she would not leave him if she tried, but he would tell her when she could go, which is typical of a narcissist.

He was a conman, not a good one, just a low-grade hustler that could read people quickly. Every deal he was doing was based on others conning him by showing him shiny objects he could not resist. A bad businessman and a poor lover, his addiction to porn was evident in bed. So much drug use made it impossible for him to perform as well.

Jeanne decided to take a solo trip in January to his dismay she kept it. He wasn’t happy because he could not control her. She needed a break and start fresh while waiting for the money. Before she left for her well-deserved gateway, she sat down with him. She explicitly told him that she has chosen her life purpose over him.