For personal or professional reasons, we at some point, are going to make decisions. But how do we know if we are making the right decision?
A lot can be happening in our lives from meeting Mr. or Ms. Right or shall we think the first job we are hoping to land will elevate us onto the corporate ladder hoping one day we could run the place.
But what if we are currently mistaken in our approaches to our life?
Yes! you read it correctly what makes you one hundred percent sure you are going to be married to the person you fell in love with and that you will be happy for the rest of your life?
What if you wake up one day and realize it was all a big mistake? You should not have raced to the alter, instead you should had listened to that little voice inside of you letting you know it wasn’t the right mate. You had to wait a little longer to meet him/her.
We all want our happy ending with the white house surrounded by a picket fence. Our dreams to be a princess or a prince ready to swoop away our true love. But instead you pick up the second best or third thinking you must settle because everyone is pressuring you or you got into your mind aka “ego” and got blindsided!
What if instead of listening to the way society perceived what we should do and when we should do that you could be honest with yourself realizing you are not mature or ready to make such a commitment. Currently, in the U.S alone, over 50% of marriages end in divorce. Why go through the headaches and spend a lot of money on something that may last only a couple of years, then repeated it again and again?
Why not learn to live our lives outside of conformity and start listening to our Spirt? There is nothing wrong on wanting to be married but why not do it with the right person? Instead of settling for second best or even jumping from one relationship to another afraid to be alone. It can be very difficult to become “mature”. It takes a lot of common sense, practicing gratitude, taking ownership of your acts and thinking before you act. Today, society has tried to predefine what we should do at any given time. You maybe look like an odd duck when you decide to live your life through your spirit because you are actually listening to the Universe.
It may sound, for some, we are out of the box and you cannot handle it, or you must find a rational explanation to make you feel better. At the end of the day it is your live, you should be in the driver’s seat, no one should dictate or trying to influence you.
I had to experience these kinds of situations a few times in my life. It was always interesting when I had some unwanted comments like “your expectations are too high, you are never going to find anyone. You have been with him for over 2 years, why are you not marrying him?” Does this sound familiar to you?
At the end I never caved in because I knew deep in my core it wasn’t the right person for me to live the rest of my life with. I have stated in past blogs we all have a different path. In our journey we may meet our true soulmate at 18, 29, 49 or maybe 60. We must make sure we are mature and have learned our life lessons along the path as well.
We do not have to follow any one standard but follow our own path.
How about your professional life?
Do you know when it is time for you to move or change jobs? Are you listening to your inner voice or are you so afraid you are more stressed to be actually focusing on work, worried you will be let go?
We can ignore the signs that are telling us we have outgrown our position. Are we so conditioned by the power of the “bees” there is nothing out there for us that we are afraid to make a move? It doesn’t cost anything to create a resume and posting it online. You may be surprised how many jobs there are available. You could if you take the first step find another company that needs your talent and skills. You could be actually landing your dream job and be happy you left your current position.
How many of you are ready to do it? Do you feel you are too old or too afraid to take the first step? Sometimes we are so used to our own routines, the ideas to change makes us run for the hills. Preferring living with regrets than actually walking into uncharted territory.
We need to recognize we are evolving and as we are growing and maturing, our thoughts are changing so are our ideas on how we should live our lives.
We need to be honest and assess where we are with an open heart and open eyes. There is nothing wrong if we want to change the way we are living our lives.
Why not start today?