Our secrets are a little more complex to deal with. Yes! we all have our own secrets. But how to deal with them if we do not want someone to uncover them?
The first one on the list is the cheater, living a double life, one with his/her mate the other with someone specific or anyone. What do you do about it? Just remember your mate knows, whether you want to believe it or not, we all have a gut feeling, yes! That little voice telling you something is off, whether by your behavior or your words. One thing is for sure if you are a cheater you could expose if unprotected coitus transmits an STD to your mate. Or even better having a child out of the woodwork trying to explain this one to your mate. If you are someone who cannot control yourself, get some help before you get in a serious relationship. At some point you are going to need to disclose the situation to your mate. There is no comeback when your mate catches you red handed. Cheaters have an uncanny way of believing they can get away with “murder”. They underestimate their mates. Remember Karma, my favorite friend Karma, that is watching our actions. Temptations are everywhere, but it doesn’t mean you have to act on them each time you feel like it. Do not get married or in a serious relationship if you are not ready.
The second on the list is addiction, yes, this one is another big one. We can use an addiction as a form of release when we are stressed, worried etc. Addictions can always help us to escape from this world and in many cases, we can try to hide them. It will come to a point when you cannot hide them, you could also spiral down into the nightmare dragging your family and mate down with you. It is devastating to see our loved ones going through it. Tough love can be difficult but sometimes we have no choice. Help is always available if we are willing to accept it. If the person is not ready or has not hit rock bottom. They will only try to manipulate their mates and family to get one more trip or high. I have heard people telling me they are in control, when in fact they were not in control of their addictions. If you have an addiction you should disclose it to your mate and family and seek help. You cannot beat it yourself but with a circle of light (family & friends) they can help you along your journey.
The third and last one on today’s list
Ha! The world wild web. What a great invention, what a horrible invention! Like everything else, there are positive things on the web from shopping, dining to traveling and more. But there is another world, a darker one. One of them is phishing, pretending to be someone you are not. We have seen lately, in the news, people who got caught doing these kinds of things from faking cancers to get more attention, harassing people to the darker side of the web individuals trying to catch teenagers and young children into their nets to groom them.
The problem we are looking at today is people are disconnecting from one another. For example, in a case of phishing, being a depressed single mom, you created a fake life on the web by pretending to be a 20 something year old girl just to have an emotional relationship with someone. Even going so far as to stealing someone else’s picture from social media to feel better about yourself. This is a game that will cost you in the long run. You are going to be caught sooner or later. Instead, why not try to socialize in real life. If you are in the middle of nowhere and bored maybe you need to find a safe way to make friends without pretending you are someone else. Yes! with social media people are exposing more about their lives but it doesn’t mean you have to try to compete with them. Not everyone is born with a “silver spoon” in their mouth. Use your mind and co-create with the Universe to get what you want, instead of trolling the web. Step outside of this illusion world that can be addictive, you need to remember this is not your life at all. Trying to live through someone else, or live a lie, will not give you what you need in life. How do you know if someone is phishing? It is easy because they will never Skype you or meet you, but instead they will find excuses to avoid you. This should be a red flag for anyone. Remember we can alter our voice on the phone as well.
For those people who are phishing they are never going to let anyone know what they are up to.
The last part of this section is for all parents around the world. You need to have parental control over your children’s phone/computers/tablets. In this darker side of the web, kids that are trying to find themselves can also be displaying too much on social media, this can attract the attention of predators. These predators will slowly but surely groom your child/teenager by connecting with them on an emotional level. You need to keep up with your children’s’ social media accounts but also keep parental control over their devices. Too often predators are using chat rooms that can be untraceable. You need to stay and connected with your children. I understand when they are hitting puberty it can be a challenge to deal with them, but you still need to protect them. Keep the communication open with them, this will help you and them. Too often parents have no idea what is going on with their kids when they are on the web.
For predators it is the same thing, they will never tell their mates nor their families. However, there are groups in the dark web that unfortunately will connect them. Most often we are going to hear about them when the damage has been done and authorities have arrested them.