Those two little naughty words, for the masters of deception it is their forte to use them. Making you feel you are the most important person in the world but while they are displaying great care for you, behind their face is a darker side and you can see it if you start looking closer.
We all have, at some point, done it; stretched the truth a little further to get out of a jam. Or living a double life pretending to be someone we are not. It can be exciting to go out one night and completely change our lives when we are meeting new people. Just to have the adrenal level going higher while watching people listening to our stories.
Let’s not forget about people hiding behind their computer screens. Addicted to pretending to be someone they are not. This is the most dangerous environment where illusion is at its extreme. Not being able to see the person face to face. Instead, some will deviously and purposefully mislead people without any regrets or care in the world. You never know who really is at the opposite end.
How about people who are addicted to shopping, substance abuses and others. How many people will be upfront about their addictions. It can be a stigma to reveal to your partner you actually are an addict. It can also be difficult if you are alone to step up and get some help. Feeling ashamed of your situation. Afraid you will be judged for it.
As for the masters of deception, they think they are smooth operators. Waiting patiently in the corner for their next prey. Usually they are doing the same scheme over and over, with a few variations. But they always have an excuse for everything, passing the blame on to someone else. Keeping themselves as the hero in their stories.
What about you? How often are you using little white lies to get out of a deadline? How many times have you stretched the truth?
Something we all need to think about, if you have been lying at work how often are you lying to your mate? Something also to keep in mind are your children. Yes, let’s not forget about them. They are your reflection. What do I mean by that? While you are lying to your mate they are taking notes and usually will repeat your patterns. Become “liar in training”, they will start to do it to you as well.
Do you really want to continue to lie or do you want to be more authentic?