I have seen too many people, lately, pretending to be someone who they are not. To conform to the “norm” or want to be part of it. But it always plays out this way. It never truly works, you can be a “shifter” adapting to your environment but sooner or later your true colors will shine.
I knew someone many years ago who appalled me, literally. I was working in corporate he was a few years younger than me. We were talking about dating, he thought he was a “smooth operator” pretending to be kind, generous with a hint of chivalry but he happened to be the opposite. While talking to him I was horrified to learn how he would go out at night, find a girl who would interest him, then through pageantry, like a peacock, put on a show to attract that girl.
She, at first, would be impressed by all those kind gestures from him than a month or two later his scheme would unravel to show his true colors. By that time the girl would breakup with him realizing he wasn’t the person he pretended to portray.
He was complaining about his failure when I pointed out to him he was just pretending. His response was to attract a girl you must do that. I smiled, while shaking my head, asking him how many long relationships has he had? His response was none, but he wasn’t getting the message to stop to pretend and be authentic.
When you are meeting people for the first time you can be attracted to them right away thinking they are Gods. You need to really open your eyes while you are having a conversation with them. I always notice within the first 5 to 10 minutes they will show in a split second their true colors. You always have two choices. You can either ignore what you saw, pretending everything is perfect when you know deep in your core he/she is not meant to be with you or notice it, acknowledged it and leave it before it can move forward to another disappointing relationship.
I do understand not everyone is fake or a great pretender in order to land the girl or guy of their dreams, but you should not ignore the signs the Universe is showing you.