Throughout our lives we open our hearts and learn unconditional love. The love that is so powerful than even death cannot break. As we are going through life we are faced with the prospect of losing our loved ones. During those heart-breaking moments, we are reminded how precious life is. Sharing a meal with them becomes a beautiful communion. A simple word of kindness can be so power as to remind them how much we love them.
How much we feel loved and invincible. Every moment counts, every gesture, touch and smiles are more precious than gold.
But when the times comes, and we are faced with the harsh reality that it is time for them to go, we are finding ourselves fighting against the emptiness, the painful heartache. Our brain is so overwhelmed we cannot fully process or comprehend what has just happened.
Our brain, to protect us, will put ourselves in “safety mode”. We are in slow motion, we are numbing ourselves. We are feeling like we are in a horrible nightmare and we are going to wake up. It will take a few days, weeks or even month before we can fully process it. Emptiness is the feeling in our heart, we are trying to fight this feeling very hard.
As we are moving slowly through the different phases of our grief, we are now having to learn to live without our loved ones. We can still smell their perfume, we are missing their touch, their laughter, their silliness. Everything reminds us, there is something that will not change and that is the love we have for them.
You feel in your heart that you are still connected with them. You cannot see them, but you can still feel them around you. If you even pay attention you can even hear them.
Healing can take month, even years. You need to go through the different phases to heal. Healing is not forgetting our loved ones. They are waiting for us on the other side, they are watching over us while we continue our journey. Our loved ones are always by our side, in what I called a different dimension. They have left their human body, but their souls are back home.
One of the best thing I found when I was healing after the loss I had, was to speak. Yes, speaking with my closest friends. I shared stories, funny stories I had a lot of them. I also took the time to find the pictures I loved the most and kept them on my phone. If I felt I was going to go down the negative path I just looked at them. Something that maybe will sounds strange to some of you, when I am at home I frequently speak with them, loudly. I know they can hear me also they are next to me.
I accepted the fact they had to move on, even if I cried a lot and my heart was broken in ten thousand pieces, I knew it was time for them to go. One thing that made me angry was the fact that I couldn’t go with them, I was left behind. It was the hardest part for me. I was starting to close myself to the world, to move out of that phase I reached out for help. This helped me to let go of my anger. If you need help, reach out, do not let yourself drown in sorrows or angers.
Take your time to heal, not everyone will understand but the people that know you will understand and stand by your side. Unconditional love cannot be shattered, it is a bond that will sustain time.
Celebrate your loved ones, share the love you had with them, so the rest of the world knows how precious they were and still are.
Special thoughts to Laeticia Hallyday and her family, may Johnny Rest In Peace.
To everyone who has lost someone dear to their heart may they Rest In Peace.
All my love