How committed are you?

I would like to start with a story in this essay. I have known an individual for over 5 years, he appeared as a nice person, always ready to help everyone. Women are drawn to him because of his kind demeanor. For the past 2 1/2 years he was in a relationship with someone. During that time, he never told anyone, but made it a point to let everyone know he was single. When he started his relationship, his mate told him she didn’t wanted to get married, nor have children. Because they had been babysitting his nephew they started to change their …

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Are you sure you are with the right Mate?

Going through our journey we are bound, most likely, to fall in love. Some individuals will meet their “soulmate” early in their lives. They will marry them, have beautiful children and spend the next 50 plus years living in bliss. For those who have not met the one yet, the quest has begun to find their soulmate. Through the process of finding your mate you will be faced with choices along the road that will be life changing. You could rush into relationships blindly, only to realized down the road this is not the right person for you. In the meantime, you get married …

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The wonderful joy of menopause

In this essay I am going to share a women’s view on the joy of menopause. I recently saw a friend of mine whose wife is just starting to go into menopause and I must say he is not going through that process very easily.  I did share with him some of my experiences on this matter… All women do have hormonal changes. From our teens years to our twenties we are constantly changing. Going through our 30’s we can definitely notice some of those changes happening. For example, the feel of our skin, our weight fluctuations etc. Having kids will add to the hormones …

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How do you go about forgiveness

In our journey we go through life lessons that are hurtful. I have encountered individuals that were so resentful towards individuals that hurt them so deeply, their wounds would not heal, they were trapped in the vicious circle of negativity. Their lives were not going anywhere, they couldn’t get pass their life lessons. They were so traumatized they were angry at the world. Trying to reach out to them was nearly impossible their ego was protecting them. Their souls were suffocating, reliving their traumas repeatedly. Anger became their best friend, it was their new normal. How do you get passed the hurt …

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What makes us who we are part 5

I came from nothing, what I went through brought me here today. No matter where you are born from the poorest of the countries under the worst circumstances, you can rise like the phoenix to become not ordinary but extraordinary. Like Dr. Wayne Dyer said, “you can live an ordinary life, or you can live an extraordinary live”. I choose to live an extraordinary life. As I am lifting a corner of the veil that is called my journey. I never defined myself with the outer condition I had to go through as a child. I protected myself with the skills I …

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What makes us who we are part 4

I never felt I belonged, I felt it was a mistake. I was born in the wrong family or I was swapped at my birth with another child. I never thought the same way they did, they were avid readers I wasn’t interested in books. My love for reading came later. We had a nice library at home. My sisters spent their time reading, I was in my head dreaming I had a perfect life finding ways to escape my life. One person that made a huge difference in my life was my Uncle, “Tonton” Francois.  He is my mother’s younger brother. He traveled …

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What makes us who we are part 3

I am now about 9 years old. At this point I was an extremely nervous child. My parents were constantly arguing and shouting at each other. My sisters, especially the older one, was always emotionally torturing me. We often ended up fighting. My mother decided we needed to see our family doctor. We were supposed to talk about what was going on with us.  Each time we left the doctor’s office, my mother was getting angrier at us. We started to notice that during my mother’s ranting she was giving us grief about what was spoken to the doctor during …

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What makes us who we are part 2

This second essay is not about describing the horror we went through nor any pleasure to expose our personal laundry to the rest of the world. No, it is a hand to everyone it reaches that everything we are going through in our life’s experience makes us who we are today. We CAN heal we do not have to repeat family patterns. As a young child I do recall that one of my sisters taught me to read and write. I didn’t want to learn but I did it for her. I was always painting in black, I never used colors. Life wasn’t a fairy tale.  As a …

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What makes us who we are part 1

What makes us who we are? From the time we are born to our last breath we have embarked on our journey, the one that makes us who we are. As a young child we learn from our family and surroundings. This experience can be powerful as well as devastating. Those experiences are the primary ones that stay with us the rest of our life. If your childhood has been a positive experience, as an adult you will continue to carry them in an inspirational way. Most likely repeating them in your own life. If you have not experienced bliss, but hardships, as a young …

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How do you go about making a decision?

When making a decision that will change your processes at work, who do you talk to in order to make the right decision? Are you speaking to the same people surrounding you or are you reaching out to individuals that could help you to make the right decision? Most employees will keep reaching to the same individuals when it comes to helping them make the right decisions. But do you feel those individuals have the knowledge or the expertise to help you? In some cases, yes, in others not so much. What drives you to reach out to the same individuals? …

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